JJ CaMeKa - an Aussie Dad's Website

Sometimes the hardest task after separation is "to get on with your life". This is
especially true if the decision to separate was one sided and NOT your decision.

If the decision was your's, then you have already made your decision and know
what you want.

The only advice I can offer here is:

Accept and respect the other persons decision.

Dwelling on it will make some people angry, hostile and violent - no sane
person wants to be around someone like that.

Dwelling on it will make some people severely depressed - if you were your
children, would you want to be around someone that is withdrawn and
depressed?

Try and maintain regular, frequent contact with your kids. Sometimes this can
be hard for reasons I have already stated in the "After Separation" section of
this website. For your own and kids well being of mind - this is essential !

Keep up social contact. Social interaction is important in the healing process
after separation, and essential to getting on with your life. A basic human need
is acceptance and this is achieved through social contact.

The follow on to keeping social contact is the return to the dating scene again.
This is an individual choice and may take a little or long time to reach this
point. On some occassions, people will avoid this step altogether to avoid
suffering emotional hurt once again. As for those that decide to date again, I
won't be giving advice on that matter, but suggest looking at all your options.